Bondage & BDSM For Dummies

Bondage & BDSM For Dummies

So, you're new to BDSM?  Guess what, everyone was a beginner at a stage!

We've put together a few thoughts & guidelines for those wanting to dip their toes into the world of bondage.

Bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism are the key ingredients of BDSM.

BDSM is something that you need a partner for.  And they'll need to be someone you trust.  Make sure you discuss everything in advance, and depending how "hard core" you plan to make your bdsm experience, make sure that you agree on a safe word.  The safe word should be respected and end any activity immediately. (Hint: Don't use your safeword too fast, you might surprise yourself 😈)

Where to Start?

So, are you a dom or a sub?  You can be both and it's worth experimenting with both options.

We suggest trying out sex with some form of restraint on one partner at first.  Bondage Tape is a great way of restraining your partner and enjoying the sensation of restraint whilst having the security that you're able to break free at any time.  This may feel like a cop-out, but the heightened excited of being bound is there, trust us.

Experience with some pain - spanking, squeezing nipples, hair pulling.  You may not believe something is for you, but once you try it you'll be surprised at the sensation you get downstairs.  You'll need to be open-minded and be willing to try something new here as you explore your own personal boundaries.

Stepping it Up

Experiment with rope and make sure you learn the versatile single column tie - this knot is easy to learn, easy to undo, and creates a loop for connecting other restraints/rope to.

An under bed restraint system is well worth the investment and offers complete control of your submissive partner.  

Some experimentation doesn't necessarily need an investment into new gear - gag yourself with a hanky or tape to discover if that is for you before buying a gag.  Blindfolding each other can elevate the experience and focus your sensations.  Candle wax and ice blocks are easy ways you can introduce some new experiences.

Intimacy

Finish with intimacy and an open conversation about what each of you enjoyed.